YOU DO YOU. This is YOUR journey. You get to make your own decisions and choices. In self-love, the key word is self. That's you.
Many people tend to think that caring for yourself before others is selfish. It’s actually the exact opposite. When you can take care of yourself, you can then take care of others. Think of the airplane oxygen mask metaphor, always explained as put your mask on first so that you can breath while you then help others around you.
Once you start to get real with yourself, listening to what is it that you need and desire, then you can go forth with clarity on what it takes to make your life more manageable and joyful.
It’s very simple. You do you.