What does it mean to love oneself? This is a question I have found myself repeating often over the last few years. We all have varied answers on what self-love is, as each of us has drastically different lives, tastes and abilities. While self-love is going to look different for everyone, what all people who love themselves have in common is that they made the choice to do so. 

I define self-love as making a series of personal strong choices. One must own everything about themselves – take full responsibility for thoughts, choices, words, actions, moods, and previous ways of dealing with situations. Some of these past moments from you life may be embarrassing or shameful to admit and come clean to, but someone who loves themselves takes full ownership of all of their choices. Self-love is a righteous knowing of oneself, one’s identity. To get down to one’s true identity, often times we have to shed layers off that don’t serve us – we have to change, morphing into a better version of ourselves. Self-love isn’t just another form of self-development, it goes far deeper than that; it’s soul development.