An aficionado is a person very knowledgeable and enthusiastic about a subject. I couldn't think of a better word to describe me and my relationship with self-love.
What does it mean to love oneself? This is a question I have repeated often over the last few years. We all have varied answers on what self-love is, as each of us has drastically different lives, tastes and abilities. While self-love is going to look different for everyone, what all people who love themselves have in common is that they made the choice to do so.
I define self-love as making a series of personal strong choices. One must own everything about themselves—take full responsibility for their thoughts, choices, words, actions, moods, and previous ways of dealing with situations. Some of these past moments from your life may be embarrassing or shameful to admit and cop to, but someone who loves themselves takes full ownership of all of their choices. Self-love is a righteous knowing of oneself, one’s identity. To get down to one’s true identity, often times we have to shed off layers that don’t serve us—we have to change, growing into a better version of ourselves. Self-love isn’t just another form of self-development, it goes far deeper than that; it’s soul development.
Why is self-love important? Because self-love supports you during your struggles.
When you love yourself, you don’t judge yourself. When you stop judging yourself, you stop judging others. If we stopped judging ourselves, and therefor others, self-love becomes the cure for much of our society’s issues.
I love myself. And, I want you to really love yourself, too. My mission is to make sure as many people as possible have the proper tools to cultivate self-love. Are you ready to open your toolbox?